As you know, I am one to ask questions of a person that might give me some sensible answers.  My mind is going with questions all day and night.  The questions I have been asking myself lately is about this Christopher McNabb that is accused of killing his 15-day-old infant daughter.  Who is he and what lead to where he is now?  Were there any signs that we could have used to avoid this?  Were there people that ignored the warnings?  Could you hold those people responsible for ignoring what they scene?  Questions … Questions … QUESTIONS!!!

As you can tell, I am outraged about this case.  About the time I can sit back and relax and relieve myself of the stress of details of one case, I am hit with the details of another.  Now that I say that, wonder if one had anything to do with the other?


Christopher McNabb is 27-years-old and he is facing the following charges:

  • Felony Murder
  • Malice Murder
  • Aggravated Battery
  • Concealing the Death of Another

Some of his previous charges are:

  • Obstruction of Law Enforcement Officer – Fayette County
  • He had 4 misdemeanor charges to with this one in Fayette County
  • Theft by Taking – Coweta County
  • Burglary – Bartow County
  • Burglary – Bartow County
  • Theft by Taking – Bartow County
  • Theft by Taking – Bartow County
  • Theft by Taking – Bartow County
  • Burglary – Bartow County
  • 2nd Degree Criminal Damage to Property – Bartow County
  • Burglary – Bartow County
  • Theft by Taking – Bartow County
  • Theft by Taking – Bartow County
  • Entering Vehicle – Bartow County
  • Theft by Taking – Bartow County

With all these charges, he was sentenced to 5-15 years in prison.  As we know, when

They first went to arrest McNabb, they hadn’t found the baby yet, so they held him on a probation violation.  He had just got out of prison last year.  In that year, he made up for lost time … he immediately got a woman pregnant and ended up killing that poor child … oh, and he is back in jail without bail.

Were there no signs that this guy might be violent?  I am sure to his girlfriend, there were signs.  I am also sure that she never told anyone about those times … or no one was ever able to convince her to leave him because of it … one of the two … and I have to wonder which.  Let me elaborate on why that would matter to me.

If she never told anyone about the domestic violence in the home, then it is very possible that she was the only one that could have seen the dangers of living with this man and she was blinded by either the abuse or the love.  I am still on the fence as to whether or not a woman in that state is able to make logical decisions.  One part of me say, yes, she has been hit by him, she has probably seen him get a little too mad at the 2-year-old that was in the home, but she is so abused that she thinks if she leaves him, it will only get worse.  Then there is another side of me that says, no, she sees the abuse, she has experienced the abuse and she knows that the only thing to do is to leave.  Those are the questions people have been asking themselves for decades and I don’t plan to keep hammering that nail here.  However, I do believe she knew full well what happened to Caliyah and I believe that although she may not have been able to stop it from happening, she most certainly knew it was a possibility to happen.  My questions now revolve around the other daughter.  How many times has she been hurt by McNabb and yet she remains in Courtney Bell’s custody.  How long is this going to go on before someone intervenes on that little girl’s behalf?
Let’s say that Courtney is so abused that she is beyond being able to assist her kids to safety (although I find that hard to believe since he has only been out of prison for a year); could there be others that knew how violent he was and yet allowed him to intermingle with children without any reports to Department of Family and Children Services (DFCS)?  I think there is.  How about the family members that found the baby in the woods?  Who are they?  How are they related to the baby and him?  How did they know where to go and search that the police had not already searched?  One cousin was on the news saying that they knew that the father “likely done something to her”.  My question to that cousin, why have you not already reported what you knew?  What if everyone reported what they knew about this big puzzle?  Eventually, the legal system would be able to save another child.

Look at my chart below and the following explanation.  Do I think we should charge some of these other people … why yes.  Maybe if we start charging others for not reporting what they have seen and heard, people might start taking this domestic violence stuff seriously; because right now, now one takes it serious.  Everyone thinks it is none of their business and they leave it alone.  If you report it and it gets investigated and they find nothing … then so be it.  At least you done your job.  After a few more reports, they will have to look harder and harder every time a new report is made and eventually you have saved a life.  Your report might not mean nothing today, but when the next one comes in, it gives your report a little more validation.

When I say, “I wonder if one had anything to do with the other”; I wonder if he got so obsessed with the Las Vegas Shooter story, that it caused him to go crazy also?  What if the media reporting on these things can cause people to lose all control?  We have to start thinking about what we are doing and saying.  How will it affect others?  Will there be casualties that we never considered?



Who Gave Them the Right?

Mallory Grossman was 12-years-old when she committed suicide because of being bullied at school.  Her bullies weren’t just students, it was teaching faculty also.  Her parents are suing the school system because of the faculty being a part of the problem that caused their daughter to commit suicide.

Technology is awesome.  Today, I bet the reading ability for the average student is a higher than it was when I was in school and this is all due to technology.  When I was in school, I had a reading disability; today, I have yet to meet a student that has a reading disability and has to go to tutoring for it.  The students are still reading at school; but now they read text messages, Snapchat messages, and emails.  Some schools have even gone to computer setups where computers are a necessity and not a commodity and therefore they loan them out to their students … something like the way books were loaned out when I was in school.

In an average week, I use Email, Facebook, and Twitter.  I will gain access to these sites on 3 types of devices:  my cellphone, my Kindle, and my laptop.  Oh, by the way, I have 4 Email accounts (one for every walk of life).  I would imagine that the average student uses on any given week, Email (probably just as many as me, because Mom and Dad can only suspend one), Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, YouTube, KiK, and Instagram (and probably a few dozen more since I don’t stay in touch with the daily trends).  Honestly, I have a hard time keeping up with Facebook and Twitter on top of work, reading and writing; I don’t know how school age teens have enough hours in the day to do it … but they do and that is where the problem comes in at.

When I was in school, I was bullied a lot … I mean, seriously, a lot.  I don’t know why … my guess is, I got on people’s nerves.  However, today, many of the people that would bully me as a teen are friends with me on my Facebook.  No, we don’t hangout or anything; but it goes to show, as adults, we do act our age.  I hold no grudges for the ones that bullied me.  As a matter of fact, today, I sympathize with some of them because they have had a really hard life in comparison to mine.

There was this one girl that used to bully me that I thought was the prettiest person.  Even though she obviously didn’t like me, that never deflected what I thought about her.  I just knew that she could have had any boyfriend she wanted and it was obvious that she had a lot of friends.  A few years ago, she committed suicide.  I didn’t find out until years after it happened; I was absolutely devastated when I found out.  I wished I had been given the opportunity to speak to her one more time.  I wanted her to know what I always thought about her … back then and today.  I always wondered what made her do it.  Some said a failing marriage … others said a terminal illness … I hate knowing that she would have done something like that because someone didn’t like her.  I would have been the first one to let her know, this was not the answer.

Back then, all I had to do was tolerate the class or bus ride that the bullies were on.  When that class or bus ride was over, I didn’t have to deal with the bullies again until the next day … on Fridays, I had a 2 day break from any bullying.  Today, our teens don’t have it that easy.  The bullying today takes on a deeper meaning than it used to.  Today’s bullying would be considered stalking more than it would be called bullying.  Sure, they are still calling them names, degrading their self-worth, and isolating them from everyone else … but they are doing it all day long.  That is all these people live for … taunting and making this person’s life a living Hell.  It doesn’t end with that one class and it doesn’t end when you get off the bus.  It starts with the texting, emails, and SnapChat first thing in the morning and that is where it stays all day … unless you are in person, of course.   They are able to do it in such a way that even the adults … the teachers and parents … get caught up in it.  As I sit here and write this, I am hoping that the adults don’t actively know what they are doing exactly.  I am hoping this teen is convincing them this is a prank and not bullying; thus their participation is supposed to bring a laugh and not a cry.

When I was in school, adults would tell me, “awe, they (the bullies) just like you”.  No, it was obvious they didn’t.  Even as I sit here as an adult myself, I don’t know what can be done about bullies; but I know something needs to be done.  Sure you can change there classes so they aren’t in the same classrooms; but that really doesn’t take care of the problem.  As I said, these teens today are texting them, SnapChatting them, going on their Facebook and posting things, and making videos on YouTube.  At this point, even changing their schools wouldn’t work.

Honestly, I think the only thing that would work is acting as an example for these teens.  No, maybe not after they become teens; but when they are younger, show them how to treat others.  Sure, you are going to have personality conflicts from time to time … I don’t think that is what bullying is.  I think these teens at some point in their life was given the right to be mean, and the one that gave them that right by example, needs to fix the problem.

For example, one day I was in the Wal-Mart and I ran into one the ladies that as teens was my biggest bully.  Not only did she bully me, in no uncertain terms, she would tell you in a heartbeat back then that she hated me.  In her shoes, I would have probably hated me too.  We were on the same softball team together.  This girl put her all into it.  I don’t know if she ever played for our high school team or not; if she didn’t, she sure needed to … she was just that good.  I really didn’t like softball.  I have never been the outdoor type.  I have always been happier indoors, either writing or reading.  So, imagine playing on a softball team with a player that didn’t want to be there and you were are a competitive player with an all win attitude … it probably made her angry on more than one occasion and yet she was stuck with me.

Anyways, we had not seen one another in years when we ran into one another at the Wal-Mart.  As we got to talking and catching up, my son, who was only about 2 years old at the time, asked me if she was a friend of mine.  Me and this lady both looked at one another and started laughing and the lady told my son, “not until now,” and she was so right.  Never in our history were we ever friends; but today, we may not hangout, but we do have a certain respect for one another.  I have told my boys several times about this lady and our history.  I have showed them that you can’t hold grudges and although you don’t particularly like someone, doesn’t mean you can’t respect them.  I could sit here and give you hundreds of examples of my boys paying it forward what they have been taught by example; but I won’t bore you with the details.  I will say this, they have never been called bullies and everyone that meets them will tell you that they have been nothing but a friend to them.  I tell people every day, once I meet you, regardless of our past, we are friends and my boys do the same.

We need to show our kids that people’s feeling do matter.  Even when we don’t have a particular interest in their life, we can be the one that changes everything for them.  All it would take is one time for them to be the one that changed someone else’s day by saying just what needed to be said instead of hating on them for being in the way.  Next time you get ready to say something mean about someone else or make a face that is unpleasant, think about your audience … you may be giving someone else the right to be a bully.



How Many Latino Women Would Kill Their Family??

In Gwinnett County on Wednesday evening, Isabel Martinez killed 4 of her kids and her husband.  Another child, 9-year-old Diana Romero, is in critical but stable condition in the hospital.  This family is a Spanish speaking family; only the kids can speak English fluently.

I watched Martinez in court this morning for her first appearance.  You would think this case wreaks of the insanity plea … but I don’t think so.  I think this woman knew full well what she was doing.  I further think she is doing everything in her power to make it look like she is insane.  She has told the police that she wants them to tell the community that a vicious killer is not on the loose (no, because she is in jail without bond).  In the court appearance, she was waving at the press, smiling at them and at one point got out of her seat and bowed to them.  She had to be asked by the guards to get back in her seat and stay still.  She went as far as to represent herself in court and she doesn’t want the court to order a co-counsel in the legal field to be with her, in the event that she has questions.  These are all indications of an insanity case.  The crime itself yells insanity.  I am having a hard time looking past all the signs that yell insanity and I am afraid the courts are going to be unable to also.

It is too early in this case for them to know who the prosecutor will be in this case, but whoever it is needs to really be on his/her toes and be ready for any rabbits in the hat that this lady might try to pull out because I think she is a little trickier than you see on the outside.

I have been reading some statistics in Latino mental health and the numbers are more alarming than I first thought.  Approximately, 17.4% of the USA is identified as Latino and of that percentage, approximately 15% are diagnosed with mental illness.  Most often times, the diagnosis is depression.  One of the studies of women who kill their kids showed that there were other factors that played a part: most often of these are mental illness, post-partum depression, or they recently lost a loved one.

I personally have a hard time with this.  I don’t think this lady had any of these.  Sure, her family has come forward and said that she just recently lost her Dad and that after that event, she started acting different.  I don’t think so.  I think this was something much deeper; something much darker.  First question I would ask the family is: how was she acting differently?  Did she act depressed?  Was she suicidal?  Was she homicidal – had she spoken of killing anyone after her father died?  I would need to know what was different about her before I could even take this as a factor in the case.  Otherwise, I would have to chalk it up to family members trying to save the one alive and in trouble at the moment.  Second, how did her father die?  Was it natural causes or was he murdered?  Third and final question, where did he die?  Was he here in the USA or was he in Mexico?  The news is reporting that not only has she been arrested and charged with 5 counts of murder and slew of other charges; she is also be held for the U.S. Immigration Enforcement and Customs Enforcement.  My guess is, she will not even see the inside of a Georgia court room for her case.  She will be deported back to Mexico or Cuba or anywhere else she might have come from.

I think maybe her father wasn’t in the US when he died and she may have wanted to go back to Mexico.  Really?  You would KILL your whole family to go back to Mexico because your Dad died?  I think we need to hold her here, let her see the full force of the US law on mothers who kill their children.  She thought this was her only option out; I think that opinion would quickly change under the US laws.

To answer the question that is in the title, apparently, only one seems crazy enough to do it.  I plan to follow this case.  I want to know more about her.



September is Literacy Month

September is national literacy month and I am trying to take a survey to write a blog for that month.  I need my family and friends help for this blog.  I am hoping this blog is going to be published for the group that I am in, Sister In Crime.  Please help me.  Take the survey yourself and then share it on your page asking your friends and family to take the survey.  It is merely on reading.  Anyone and everyone is encouraged to take this survey because I need as much data as possible for my blog.  I need the survey to be taken by at least 100 people, but if I can get more, that would be awesom!!!

So, are you ready.  All you have to do is either copy and paste the questions in a response directly to this blog post or simply copy and paste the questions with your answers to my Facebook account.   Here we go:

  1. How many books do you read in a month?
  2. How many books do you read in a year?
  3. Do you encourage reading to your family? (family reading time, suggest books to kids, etc)
  4. How many times do you visit the library in a month?
  5. How many times do you visit the library in a year?
  6. Do you visit the same library each time?
  7. Do you buy the books you read? Or do you prefer to borrow from the library?
  8. How many books do you buy in a month?
  9. How many books do you buy in a year?
  10. Do you read fiction or non-fiction?
  11. What genre of books do you read? (Fantasy, True Crime, Drama, Romance, Etc)
  12. Do you read books on a digital device (Kindle, Nook, or Phone)?
  13. Do you chart the books you read (ex. Goodreads)?
  14. Do you keep a Journal (a daily journal, book journal, or any type of journal)?
  15. Who is your favorite author?
  16. What was the last book you read?
  17. When did you finish it?
  18. What do you plan to read next?
  19. How do you find you the books you read? (word of mouth, advertisement, library suggestion, etc)
  20. How old are you?

Thank you again for your participation.  You have been such a great help.



Women Kill Me!!!!

Shane Ladner was in court this week to find out the verdict on his case of lying about having a Purple Heart.  He was a police officer in Cherokee County and was accused of lying under oath about having a Purple Heart.  He was found guilty on 6 of the 7 charges against him.  One charge of lying to investigators and 5 counts of lying to the tax commissioner so he could get a “free tag” for his truck. As he is lead out of the courtroom in handcuffs, friends comfort his wife.  Are you serious?  Some women kill me with how easily a guy is able to smooze her.  She don’t even get a clue that if he lied about this, what else do you think he lied about.  His tag was only $20 a year; he lied to get a $20 tag free.   I promise you, the lies he has told his wife are a lot worse.  Wake up lady, this is only the beginning.

Why Are They Not AS Big And Tough In Court As They Are On The Battle Field

When I first heard the story about Kayla Norton and Jose Torres, I didn’t feel compelled to write about it.  After watching all the videos available on the case and seeing all the comments on Facebook, my blood is boiling.  For those that have no clue what I am referring to, in 2015 when the Confederate Flag was taking a beating, a group of people that called themselves “Respect The Flag” terrorized a 8-year-old little girl’s birthday party.  It was a group of several trucks with several flags in the back of the trucks and the passengers and drivers were yelling obscenities and threats to the partygoers.   At one point, the people from the trucks were threatening to get guns out of their trucks.  When I heard people done this at a child’s birthday party, my heart sunk.  I couldn’t believe we had adults, young adults, but nonetheless adults acting like this.

Fifteen people are arrested: Kayla Norton was sentenced to 13 years to serve 6 in prison; Jose Torres was sentenced to 20 years to serve 13 in prison; Thomas Summers was sentenced to 6 years; and the other 12 were sentenced to probation.  Here is where I get heated.  There is a petition shared on the social media sites asking the Governor of Georgia to overturn the wrongful convictions of Kayla Norton and Jose Torres.  I am trying to figure out how Patrick Rogers of Pennsylvania knows anything about this issue to begin with.  Patrick Rogers is the person who started the petition.  He doesn’t know what it is like to live in Georgia where 60% of the population is white and 30% of the population is black.  In Pennsylvania, those numbers are more like 80% white and 10% black.  To narrow it down a little more, in Douglas County we have 52% whites and 39% blacks.  Do you see where I am going with this?  We have to get along.  It is so close to a 50/50 split.  We don’t have room to rise up against the other.  No one can call the other more superior than the other can, because we aren’t.  We definitely don’t need someone from Pennsylvania that has no clue what it is like to co-exist with another race causing issues down here in Georgia.  Even the original Mr. Rogers knew to stay within his own neighborhood.

Another thing that upsets me about this whole issue are the lies that are being spewed.  Starting with Norton and Torres’ lie: they were not in that area to crash a birthday party (like they would say it if they were), they were there to sale American Flags to raise money to buy Confederate Flags for those less fortunate and can’t buy their own … or something like that.  Not sure exactly what they were doing, but selling or buying flags was not what they were doing in this video.  If you will notice, there are a lot of police already on the scene.  This is the only video that anyone has of what happened.  Witnesses in court testified that objects thrown at the partygoers along with racial slurs yelled and threats of bringing out guns.  I have yet to see any proof of anyone selling flags.  The fact that the police are there tells me something had to have happened before this video started filming.  It was a lie.  Last night someone claiming to be Norton’s best friend (and we all know how that goes, with friends like that ..blah ..blah ..blah) said that she “knows her friend Kayla wouldn’t have done that because she has been dating a black guy for the past year”.    Here is what I do know; Jose Torres is the father of Kayla Norton’s 3 kids.  I doubt she has been dating a black guy, but if she has, I think that would have been more for Judge McClain’s benefit than anything else.  Lie … another bold face lie.

Although the previous points are surely damaging on their own merits, the thing that eats me up is how far above this we should be by now.

  • Slavery was abolished on January 31, 1865
  • Douglas county Georgia is originally named after Frederick Douglas (a black slave abolitionist) on October 17, 1870.
  • Some 84 years later, Desegregation of the schools happened in 1954

We should be far above anyone doing any acts of this sort.  Tonight someone asked me why I thought it was right to sentence Kayla Norton and Jose Torres to more years than a rapist or murderer, because what they done was worse than murder.  That 8-year-old and all her friends should have only seen something like that in history books in a history class.  Thanks to Norton and Torres that poor child seen what her Great-grand-parents went through first hand.  They murdered a child’s ability to trust white people.  A child is innocent and everything that we teach them will eventually come out in action … what do you think the action will be from this learning experience?  Gangs?  Murder?  Burglary?  The only way these things and plenty more are not the result is going to be based on how the parents can turn it into something different.  The video of one of the victims in court gives me hope that she will do just that.

As with anything that upsets the public to this degree, this too shall pass, with the passing I hope we learn some lessons. We need to respect one another … no matter who your neighbor is, we all can connect on one level or another and we need to find a way to do so.  If you don’t have a dog in the fight (speaking of the guy in Pennsylvania), then stay home.  There are a million things I can think to say about this topic and a million things I wish I still had time to say; but I think for now enough said.