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Who Gave Them the Right?

Mallory Grossman was 12-years-old when she committed suicide because of being bullied at school.  Her bullies weren’t just students, it was teaching faculty also.  Her parents are suing the school system because of the faculty being a part of the problem that caused their daughter to commit suicide.

Technology is awesome.  Today, I bet the reading ability for the average student is a higher than it was when I was in school and this is all due to technology.  When I was in school, I had a reading disability; today, I have yet to meet a student that has a reading disability and has to go to tutoring for it.  The students are still reading at school; but now they read text messages, Snapchat messages, and emails.  Some schools have even gone to computer setups where computers are a necessity and not a commodity and therefore they loan them out to their students … something like the way books were loaned out when I was in school.

In an average week, I use Email, Facebook, and Twitter.  I will gain access to these sites on 3 types of devices:  my cellphone, my Kindle, and my laptop.  Oh, by the way, I have 4 Email accounts (one for every walk of life).  I would imagine that the average student uses on any given week, Email (probably just as many as me, because Mom and Dad can only suspend one), Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, YouTube, KiK, and Instagram (and probably a few dozen more since I don’t stay in touch with the daily trends).  Honestly, I have a hard time keeping up with Facebook and Twitter on top of work, reading and writing; I don’t know how school age teens have enough hours in the day to do it … but they do and that is where the problem comes in at.

When I was in school, I was bullied a lot … I mean, seriously, a lot.  I don’t know why … my guess is, I got on people’s nerves.  However, today, many of the people that would bully me as a teen are friends with me on my Facebook.  No, we don’t hangout or anything; but it goes to show, as adults, we do act our age.  I hold no grudges for the ones that bullied me.  As a matter of fact, today, I sympathize with some of them because they have had a really hard life in comparison to mine.

There was this one girl that used to bully me that I thought was the prettiest person.  Even though she obviously didn’t like me, that never deflected what I thought about her.  I just knew that she could have had any boyfriend she wanted and it was obvious that she had a lot of friends.  A few years ago, she committed suicide.  I didn’t find out until years after it happened; I was absolutely devastated when I found out.  I wished I had been given the opportunity to speak to her one more time.  I wanted her to know what I always thought about her … back then and today.  I always wondered what made her do it.  Some said a failing marriage … others said a terminal illness … I hate knowing that she would have done something like that because someone didn’t like her.  I would have been the first one to let her know, this was not the answer.

Back then, all I had to do was tolerate the class or bus ride that the bullies were on.  When that class or bus ride was over, I didn’t have to deal with the bullies again until the next day … on Fridays, I had a 2 day break from any bullying.  Today, our teens don’t have it that easy.  The bullying today takes on a deeper meaning than it used to.  Today’s bullying would be considered stalking more than it would be called bullying.  Sure, they are still calling them names, degrading their self-worth, and isolating them from everyone else … but they are doing it all day long.  That is all these people live for … taunting and making this person’s life a living Hell.  It doesn’t end with that one class and it doesn’t end when you get off the bus.  It starts with the texting, emails, and SnapChat first thing in the morning and that is where it stays all day … unless you are in person, of course.   They are able to do it in such a way that even the adults … the teachers and parents … get caught up in it.  As I sit here and write this, I am hoping that the adults don’t actively know what they are doing exactly.  I am hoping this teen is convincing them this is a prank and not bullying; thus their participation is supposed to bring a laugh and not a cry.

When I was in school, adults would tell me, “awe, they (the bullies) just like you”.  No, it was obvious they didn’t.  Even as I sit here as an adult myself, I don’t know what can be done about bullies; but I know something needs to be done.  Sure you can change there classes so they aren’t in the same classrooms; but that really doesn’t take care of the problem.  As I said, these teens today are texting them, SnapChatting them, going on their Facebook and posting things, and making videos on YouTube.  At this point, even changing their schools wouldn’t work.

Honestly, I think the only thing that would work is acting as an example for these teens.  No, maybe not after they become teens; but when they are younger, show them how to treat others.  Sure, you are going to have personality conflicts from time to time … I don’t think that is what bullying is.  I think these teens at some point in their life was given the right to be mean, and the one that gave them that right by example, needs to fix the problem.

For example, one day I was in the Wal-Mart and I ran into one the ladies that as teens was my biggest bully.  Not only did she bully me, in no uncertain terms, she would tell you in a heartbeat back then that she hated me.  In her shoes, I would have probably hated me too.  We were on the same softball team together.  This girl put her all into it.  I don’t know if she ever played for our high school team or not; if she didn’t, she sure needed to … she was just that good.  I really didn’t like softball.  I have never been the outdoor type.  I have always been happier indoors, either writing or reading.  So, imagine playing on a softball team with a player that didn’t want to be there and you were are a competitive player with an all win attitude … it probably made her angry on more than one occasion and yet she was stuck with me.

Anyways, we had not seen one another in years when we ran into one another at the Wal-Mart.  As we got to talking and catching up, my son, who was only about 2 years old at the time, asked me if she was a friend of mine.  Me and this lady both looked at one another and started laughing and the lady told my son, “not until now,” and she was so right.  Never in our history were we ever friends; but today, we may not hangout, but we do have a certain respect for one another.  I have told my boys several times about this lady and our history.  I have showed them that you can’t hold grudges and although you don’t particularly like someone, doesn’t mean you can’t respect them.  I could sit here and give you hundreds of examples of my boys paying it forward what they have been taught by example; but I won’t bore you with the details.  I will say this, they have never been called bullies and everyone that meets them will tell you that they have been nothing but a friend to them.  I tell people every day, once I meet you, regardless of our past, we are friends and my boys do the same.

We need to show our kids that people’s feeling do matter.  Even when we don’t have a particular interest in their life, we can be the one that changes everything for them.  All it would take is one time for them to be the one that changed someone else’s day by saying just what needed to be said instead of hating on them for being in the way.  Next time you get ready to say something mean about someone else or make a face that is unpleasant, think about your audience … you may be giving someone else the right to be a bully.

 

 

What Makes Them Think They Are Smarter Than Those Others?

Lately, it seems that over and over again, we are hearing where a wife of a high-end official has been killed.  The occurrence of such cases is to the point that you automatically assume the husband done it.  For example, a Fire Chief’s wife dies by a gunshot wound in their home and the home is burned down.  My first thought is that the Fire Chief done it.  I may be wrong and for the life of me, I hope I am … but this kind of case comes from experience.  Usually, a fireman’s family is very well schooled on the dangers of fire.  They live with a fireman and that fireman lets them know what he has faced and probably even goes into details about how to deal with it in the event they come up against it themselves … but this wasn’t just a fire that she died in, she was also shot in the head.

Then you have the Judge who’s wife was shot while they were in a car out with another couple.  By the way, he still says that it was an accident and that he didn’t mean to shoot her.

That’s why I like to study true crime and write about it.  I want to know why these people think they can get by with it.  Why is it, they think they are smarter than those that came before them and that they know what needs to be done to get by with it.  I am sure this could have been any number of family members; but my first guess will be the husband.

These men were so anxious to get rid of their wives that they attempted to do the impossible.  This Judge Tex McIver I am sure has seen enough of those type of cases in his court room and still, he thought he was smarter than the ones before him.  I want to know what gives them this mentality.

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They Finally Arrested Mark Redwine

Dylan Redwine went missing in November of 2012 and due to the contentious relationship he had with his father, Mark Redwine, Mark had always been a person of interest in the case.  In June of 2013, Dylan’s half-brother said that his father Mark told him that Dylan died of blunt force trauma and that it will be up to the investigators to find his body.  Well, Mark got his wish.  In November of 2015, Dylan Skull was found by some hikers on Middle Mountain.

Now, I ask Mark Redwine, is that really what you wanted?  I mean, sure, you have been free for almost five years, but where has it gotten you?  In that time, you probably seen your other kids grow a little longer; made a little bit more money that you can’t take with you; and entered more relationships that will always wonder how someone they know could do this.  But the end is the end and nothing ever makes it different.  It will be just as painful today as it would have been five years ago.

I am thankful for the investigators that never give up.  They keep searching until they get answers.  I think so many answers would come if we just wait.  I think in the case of Caylee Anthony, if we weren’t so rushed to a judgment and waited as these investigators did, would the outcome have been different?  I think it would have.

What Would A County Do To Cover Up A Contrastrophe?

Updated for:  06/30/17

Today, 11Alive News reported that they have dropped the charges against the two teens Gaitlinburg held responsible for this fire.  I could not see it then and I can’t see it today, how anyone would think it was the teens fault for doing this.

 

 

I took a trip to Gaitlinburg and Pigeon Forge to observe the devastation from the fires of November 23rd, 2016.  Two teens have been blamed with the fire that:

  • Destroyed 17,136 Acres of land
  • 1,123 Destroyed residential Homes
  • 14 Homes had major damaged
  • 71 Homes had minor damage
  • 181 Homes were affected in one way or another by the fire (this could be smoke or water damage)
  • 58 Structures that were businesses were destroyed
  • 3 Structures had major damage
  • 2 Structures had minor damage
  • 10 Structures were affected in one way or another.
  • 14 people lost their lives
  • 134 people were injured in one way or another.

The two teens are 15 and 17 years old.  The 17 year old has a parent that works for the Sheriff’s Department.  Both teens have an attorney, but neither attorney is speaking to the media.  The boys are accused of walking up the hiking trail lighting matches and throwing them down on the trail.  These lit matches eventually lead to the fire that done all of the above damage.  I spoke to some of the people in Tennessee and they seem to feel these kids should have to serve at least 10 years.

Well, I have a problem with this.  The following is the time line for the fires:

  • Wednesday, November 23rd at 5:30pm
    • Firefighters observe smoke coming from the Chimney Tops
    • As it got dark, they hike the trail to the Chimney Tops and find a small fire that had burned about 1.5 acres already.
    • With the darkness and the rough terrain (the hiking trail for the Chimney Tops is for Advanced Hikers), the firefighters decided that there was nothing they could do and returned to the office.
  • Thursday, November 24th
    • Firefighters hiked the trail again and marked off 410 acres that the fire was allowed to burn. This was more or less a way of roping off and area for the fire to burn itself out.
  • Friday, November 25th
    • The fire continued to climb down the rocky terrain.
    • The firefighters continued to look for alternate moves, but no safe alternatives were found.
  • Saturday, November 26th We are at 6 acres that have burned
    • A 4-Day Near Term Analysis from the USFS Rocky Mountain Research Station was requested. The analyses said that the fire would grow at a slow rate and move slowly toward the boundaries that have been set for it.
  • Sunday, November 27th We are at 35 acres that have burned
    • The Storm Team said that humidity dropped and winds picked up to cause the conditions to change on Monday. The Storm Team said that winds would be anywhere between 12 – 25 miles per hour (mph) and the gusts could be as high as 40mph.
    • The estimates were much lower than expected. Some of the gusts were as high as 87 mph.
    • 3 Helicopters were ordered to dump large buckets of water on the hottest parts of the fire to hold it at the containment lines.
    • On the ground, firelines were formed to fight the fire from the ground.
    • Late Sunday, the fire was still only at 35 acres had been burned.
  • Monday, November 28th
    • The Storm Team informs the firefighters that the weather conditions changed drastically overnight from the forecast they had given just 24 hours prior.
    • Strong winds had pushed the fire to the Northeast.
    • Now they were fighting what was called spot fires which are embers that fly up from a major fire and land in a spot and form another fire.
    • The spot fires were anywhere from ½ a mile to a 1 mile from the main fire.
    • This was deemed extraordinary fire behavior. Fires like this only happen in the plain states.
    • A larger effort to fight the fires was called in.
    • Warnings were sent to Gaitlinburg Fire Department about the impending spot fires (although, the firefighters seen it unlikely).
    • Because of the smoke, it became impossible to track the acreage at this point.
    • Within 3 hours, the fire had jumped 3 miles away from the main fire with spot fires.
    • The largest call out for other firefighters ever in Gaitlinburg history went out.
    • Between 5:45-6:00pm the power went out to the weather tools and multiple trees were falling, power lines were falling, and several more spot fires started.
    • Mandatory evacuations of small communities started at 6pm.
    • There is no fire warning on the emergency sirens, so the flood warning siren went off twice between 8:30 and 9:30pm.

Yes, these boys were acting in a way that was dangerous in drought conditions.  Honestly, do you think these two teens even knew what a drought was?  Sure, we studied that in science in school, but how many science projects are about drought conditions?  I cannot remember seeing one science project that resembled the affects of a drought.  You tell me, after seeing this time line and seeing that no real effort to put the fires that started on November 23rd out started until November 27th, what do you think?  There were 4 days there that the firefighters done the minimum efforts to fight what turned out to be devastating fires.

Back to question one, what would a county do to cover up a catastrophe?  Why would they want to cover it up?  Let me start with the why.  As I said, I went up there and I was talking to different people about the fires and went fishing for their thoughts.  For the most part, these people thought those teens needed to hang because they left so many people devastated.  One guy said that his house was paid for and he lost everything he owned in the fire.  He went to FEMA and asked for help and they turned him down because he made too much money.  Apparently, even the money that Dolly Parton offered was tainted.  She would not help him either.  In my experience, I have learned one thing, if you find one with a story like this, there are usually a lot more that do not have an outlet to get theirs out, but nonetheless have the same story.  So, why would a county want to cover up a catastrophe, because they do not want to be the ones that is sued because of their neglect.  Plain and simple, this was neglect at its best.  A firefighter with 25 years experience is in charge of fighting this fire and this was the best that someone with 25 years experience could come up with.

Both of the teens have attorneys and as I sit here tonight writing this, my heart goes out to these boys that are in lock-up until the judge decides what kind of release they would be eligible for.  Honestly, they probably would not be safe on the streets anyways.  The people in Tennessee all believe the legal officials when they say that these teens caused all this devastation.  NO, they did not cause all of it.  Sure, they set the fire, but it was not their job to fight the fires.  How would this be their fault?  I do not see it.

Give me your opinions, I sure would like to hear them.

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Tabitha Sampson Rohm

The Jury Got It Right

On January 11, 1999 David Temple, a high school football coach, found his pregnant wife, Belinda Temple shot to death in their home.  In his trial 9 years later, David was found guilty of her murder and sentenced to life in prison.  I do not believe the jury got it wrong.  They were right to find him guilty.

In the legal world, the case is what they call a circumstantial case.    District Attorneys do not like to go to court on a circumstantial case because it means they do not have any evidence to back up their claim.  They do not have fingerprints, footprints, or any DNA.  They do not have anyone coming forward with a confession.  They have the contrary; they have one person that they has come up in their investigation repeatedly.  Kelly Siegler, the Prosecutor, has a saying, “if you take one wooden pencil (each wooden pencil represents one string of circumstantial evidence) and try to break it, most likely, you will break it.  If you take a second wooden pencil and add to the first, then try to break it, you might be able to break it.  But, the more wooden pencils, the more pieces of circumstantial evidence, you put together, the more unlikely it becomes to break it”  I happen to agree with her.  There comes a point when one has to come out and say, “oh, come on now, admit it”.

Let me review some of the evidence that they did have:

  • Shaka – David’s Chow that was ferocious with everyone except David, Evan, and Belinda Temple;

was in the home at the time of the murder.  The dog was not drugged.  When the police arrived on the scene, Shaka was so ferocious; they almost had to shoot it to get into the house the help Belinda.

  • The door that gave entry to the burglar (David Temple’s story … and he has stuck to it) was broken while the door was open.
  • Belinda only drove while wearing her glasses … her glasses were on when she was shot.
  • Belinda always pulled her shoes off at the door when she came in … her shoes were on her feet when she got shot.
  • Belinda had gone to David Temple’s mom’s house to pick up some soup for Evan because he was sick before she came home from work … the soup was sitting on the kitchen table after the murder. A caring mom usually would have fixed Evan a bowl and put the rest in the Fridge for later.  A bowl was not made for Evan and she never put it in the fridge.
  • David said that Evan had been riding his bike in the garage when his mother was murdered … Evan’s bike was hanging on the wall in the garage.

As with most cases, David Temple had the oldest motive in the book, a girlfriend.  David Temple told Heather Scott that he “loved” her three days prior to Belinda Temple’s death.

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Here are a few of my issues with David Temple and Heather Scott:

  • In his trial, David blamed the teen who lived next door for the burglary and murder.
    • Just like all the other students at Katy High School, that teen liked Belinda. Sure, he did not like the discipline that came from her for his lack of attendance, but he liked her as a person.
      • It kills me that he would try to put a teen in prison for life for something he did.
    • Soon after Belinda’s death, Heather and David started their relationship.
      • A year after her death, Heather and David got married.
        • I have to wonder, how can Heather live with a man that clearly murdered his wife?
        • How can Heather resolve the fact within her own mind that David wanted to blame a teen for what he done rather than take the blame himself?
        • Finally, what does Heather think he is going to do when he gets tired of her; or thinks she is getting fat, or David simply wants another woman, if he gets away with this murder?

No, these are not incriminating facts, but they are definitely some things to take into consideration.  One could say that means Heather has full faith that David is innocent and therefore we should consider those.  Some could argue that David has convinced Heather to help plead his case by remaining in the relationship with him.   Others might say that Heather is throwing caution to the wind and putting her life at stake for someone who never considers others himself.

Due to some mistakes made during the prosecution of David Temple, a Judge has granted him the right to a new trial.  He is gave a $30,000 bond and his family scraped every dime and was able to get him out of prison until his next trial.  Here is my problem with a Judge doing this.  After every high profile court case, the first thing people yell is the jury got right; or the jury got it wrong.  I worry about the juries coming to a point where they do not want to make decisions in court cases because the Judge may come behind them and rule against it.

I can understand granting him a new trial, after all, our appeals process would not be complete without one.  I do not think we should grant him a bond while awaiting that new trial.  We have juries for a reason and they play an important part in our judicial system.  We need to trust them to do their jobs to the best of their ability and not let a judge over rule that verdict.

But these are my thoughts, what are yours?

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ADDICTION

Ten years ago, I was addicted to Crack Cocaine.  My addiction last for 14 months after my then boyfriend introduced it to me.  Crack was my drug of choice, but honestly, any drug would have sufficed.  I have been thinking a lot about those days lately.  Not because I would ever want to revisit them, but because my heart breaks for people caught in such a trap.  On April 7th, 2007 I got arrested while out looking for the drug and thankfully, my parents had the bright idea to leave me in there until my court date.  Other inmates told me how to ask bail bondsmen to bail me out without any money to put down, but I was afraid to do something like that.  Then if I were to get out without my parents’ approving way, where would I have gone.  There was more to consider than how to get out.   I’m glad I didn’t bail out.  I stayed in the county jail for 28 days and it gave me plenty of time to think.  I was able to think about what all I had been doing the past 15 months.  I was able to push a reset button and start fresh when I got out.  My body was clean of drugs and my mind for the first time in over a year was clear.  The first thought to hit my head when I awoke was not to find money to get high.  It was not to find my dealer or hit the pawnshop with stuff I had stolen.   For the first time in over a year, I awoke clean and clear minded.  From that moment on, it was up to me if I was ever to get high again and I knew this.  It was my choice if I would hang out with that crowd again.  You know the one, the one that knew where to find drugs.   I changed my friends.  I changed my hangouts.  I changed everything I did and who I did everything with.  That was my first arrest and that is what 28 days did for me.  Most addicts do not have that opportunity.  Not because they are able to stay in their addiction and never get caught; but because they are able to whine enough so they convince someone to come get them out.  Did I whine to my mother … heck yeah I did.  I also cried, cussed, and fussed and anything else I thought might convince her to come get me.  It broke my mother’s heart, but she knew what she was doing … even if I did not understand.

Today, I watched the show The Doctors on TV.  I rarely watch this show.  If I do watch it, I usually caught it in a doctor’s office or it was on TV when I walked into the room (and I usually turn it rather quickly).  Today’s show was about a 27-year-old girl that weighed almost 400 lbs and wanted help with her weight.  Her whole family was addicts of one sort or the other.  Her addiction was to food.  You know how these shows go, after exposing the problem; the host will offer a solution.  The solution to Jessica’s problem was TJ Howard at Origins Behavior Healthcare.   I actually think it is neat for the show to offer these people such awesome help.  I have seen Dr. Phil McGraw offer the same help on his show (which makes sense because The Doctors is his son’s show).  As I said, this is awesome help.  However, let’s get real, not all of us can write in to The Doctors and the Dr. Phil show; and if we did, the two shows cannot help every case.  Dr. Travis Lane Stork, the host of The Doctors said on today’s show that Jessica’s help was going to cost right at $250,000.00.  That really upset me.  How is the average person supposed to afford that much to get help?  It is much easier and cheaper to stay in the addiction.

Is it really necessary to go to jail for 30 days in order to get clean?  Would that even work for everyone if that were a viable solution?  I don’t think so.  I have seen people go to jail for 2, 4, even 6 years and still be an addict when they come out.  The jails are not rehabilitation programs.  Sure, they have the drug classes, the GED classes, and some even have trades that you can learn; but those programs are not professional programs with doctors watching over them and guiding you as you go through them.  Besides, in jail, you are right there with the people that was out on the streets doing it with you.  Maybe not the exact same people, but I assure you there is not much difference from them and you street buddies besides their names.   You are able to sit there and talk about drugs all day.  Talk about the music that you listen to … for example:  Percocet Ten by Kyle Lucas.   When my boyfriend back in the day was locked-up, he would call me from jail and tell me a new “hook-up” for the drugs.  Is that rehabilitating?  I don’t think so.  So, what’s left?

You have AA (Alcoholics Anonymous), NA (Narcotics Anonymous), Celebrate Recovery & other church programs; but do these work?  Personally, I don’t think so. I attended the Reformer’s Unanimous program long before I was ever an addict because I wanted to help the addicted.  I seen people attend the meetings and go straight to the dealer after the meeting.  I seen people come into the meetings high and drunk.  I seen people come to the meetings as a social gathering and then I seen others attend for the free food that was offered at the end of the night as a meet and greet time.  The reasons people attended the meetings wasn’t always for the purpose of rehabilitation and because of that, it would interfere with someone else’s purpose.  My point is this, there is no real help out there for the poor addicted.  We need more hospital beds for the addicted.  We need more beds for the mentally ill also, but the addictions are taking over our society.  It is truly sad how many people out there are addicted and there is nowhere for them to turn and no one their families can go to for help.  I guess we could keep writing into Dr. Phil McGraw and Dr. Travis Lane Stork; but I don’t see them being able to help a whole lot people and honestly, to suggest someone write into them and then get refused the help they need would be more damaging than never contacting them in the first place.  The depression from the refusal to help could cause the addicted to go on a binge where they use more than the normal for a spurt of time.

Next time you watch one of these show, think to yourself how much is this show helping that person?  How much is it helping the multitude of others out there?  It would be more beneficial to write into the show and let them know how disappointed you are they didn’t use that money to help more than one person.    Let them know it upset you that they used that one person with that one problem so they could get more ratings.  Ask them if $250,000.00 was worth the ratings they got for that show.  As a former addict that needed help and couldn’t get it, I hope their answer is “no”.

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Katelyn Nicole Davis

On December 30th, 2016 Katelyn Nicole Davis hung herself outside her home in Polk county Georgia … she was only 12 years old.  Katelyn videoed her suicide and live streamed it to a website that published it as she streamed it.  She was found around 6pm and although efforts were made to revive her, they were unsuccessful.

Outrage

This video has sparked a lot of outrage.  After the video was posted to the one site, a lot of the other sites more or less picked it up.  People are so outraged over this video that they are ignoring the issues that are so blatantly obvious in the video … and subsequently the online diary that she kept.  Katelyn by no means was quiet about all the things that she has been feeling and the things that she has been doing.  She also was not quiet about the issues that she faced in the home.  I have a hard time believing that she found the world of internet more attentive to her needs than her own home, but that does appear to be the case.

I realize that blogs like this one are probably hard for the family to hear, but only you know what was really going on in the home.  No one in the internet world knows if everything Katelyn was saying and feeling were the real deal or if it was merely the emotional roller coaster of a teen’s life.  It is no secret that teens are very emotional, they tend to wear their emotions on their sleeves.  But when you mix with that emotional roller coaster a mental illness or addiction of some sort, it will create a volcano that is bound to erupt in a volatile way.

Sure, there is outrage from the public; no one wants to see this on the internet and no one wants to entice others that may be thinking about it to do it.  The internet alone worries parents, but when you realize that your kids could be watching a video that could influence them at their worst moments, that is a fear that parents do not want and they do not need.  We never know what is influencing our teens.  Some parents do not allow their kids of any age to play certain video games because of the violent content and nudity.  I am sure that when “reality internet” hits their home, it probably does scare them.  What is a parent to do when all this hits their homes?

Deidre Dukes from Fox 5 Atlanta said that the Polk County Police Chief has tried contacting the administrators of the websites that keep posting the “suicide link” and asking them to remove it from their sites, but they will not.  The Chief says that his hands are tied because there is no law against them posting the link.  The Chief says that he has been getting calls as far away as Germany to complain about this video.  Any time a teen dies, we hate it.  It does not matter how it happens, the fact is, this teen could have had the cure for cancer one day.    They were precious lives that left us too soon and we will never know what kind of adults they were going to be.  Katelyn’s Mom even makes that comment in one of the arguments with her.

Then you have the outrage from the family and friends of Katelyn, they do not want to see her in this situation.  They do not want to see her at her lowest.  In their minds, this is probably feeding right into the people that caused her to come to that decision that dreadful day.   In reality, no one will ever know what brought her to this point.  The family cannot blame the public for posting her videos that was her desire.  That was how she wanted to live her life … live streaming.  She posted her diary live, her arguments with her mother, and her suicide.  If she was a Kardashian, they would say she was doing it for the publicity.  This was how she wanted to live.

Argument Videos with Mom

Let me tell you what I see when I watch Video 1 and Video 2 of arguments with her mother.  I see a typical teen girl arguing with her mother; but the topics that I see argued about are not your typical topics.  For instance, she accuses her mother of being a drug addict, a snorting drug addict on at least two different occasions and not one time does the mother deny this.  Katelyn also refers to her mother looking for a job and in Katelyn’s opinion; her mother is not putting her all into finding this job.  I guess one would have to wonder why this would matter to Katelyn so much.  I can come up with several reasons why this would matter to her.  Katelyn describes living in a basement, sleeping on a mattress in water that leaks from the water pipes coming from the bathroom.  She said she has a big hole in her room that goes clear to the outside and that she has even had a bird come into her room through the hole.  Katelyn also describes having younger siblings that she always has to watch.  Why does she have to watch her siblings?  Her mother does not work.  Where does her mother go so much that makes Katelyn have to babysit so much?  Again, it probably is none of Katelyn’s business where her mother goes, and it is none of her business if her mother works or not; but in the conditions that I described, I can understand Katelyn’s distress.

Summary Of Problems

I am doing this blog not as a redundant article about a 12-year-old girl that committed suicide, but more as warning.  This sweet precious girl had many things going for her: good grades, was very creative and she was in line for college.  However, Katelyn had what seem to be very big issues: depression, cutting, and a Slender Man obsession.  All these are some very serious issues.

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Depression and cutting go hand in hand.  Katelyn was in so much pain that the only way to relieve the pain was to hurt herself by cutting herself.  Her mom knew that she was cutting herself.  Only three days before she committed suicide, she told her mom about cutting herself on the shoulders and thighs.  The picture above is from her online journal three days prior to her suicide.   Keep in mind, her and her mother were in an argument when she done this … and her mom offered to be someone she could talk to if she needed to.  Really, who wants to talk to someone that is arguing at her.  The moment her mother heard this, she should have been in touch with her psychiatrist.  Chances are, if her mother did not work, then Katelyn had Medicaid and was able to go to the doctor anytime she needed to.  The minute that Katelyn admitted to cutting herself, there should have been an imaginary 24’x24’  huge red flag flailing above her head.  At what point does a Mom get off her behind and yell for help.  Help of this kind would not be a reflection on her parenting.  Then again, I guess if I was doing drugs (I am only going on what Katelyn accused her of), then I would worry.  If my daughter told me that my husband was touching her, I would probably worry that she might tell the doctor that was a reason for her pain or depression.  If my house was unsuitable to live in (Katelyn’s room was in the basement with leaking water pipes), I would probably worry if I was unable to correct this problem.  I can understand the problem here.  Help was impossible because help would have endangered another’s freedom.

Slender Man

Slender Man is the part of this whole situation that worries me.  Katelyn first mentions Slender Man only nine days before committing suicide.  I first heard about Slender Man in May of 2014 when two 12-year-old girls tried to kill one of their classmates because Slender Man told them to.  As one website points out, every generation has its monsters and unfortunately, we live in the day of Slender Man.  I personally have not researched Slender Man enough to know how he affects these 12-year-olds, but I do find it odd that Katelyn was 12-years-old when she committed suicide just after mentioning Slender Man in a online journal entry and two girls from Wisconsin tried to kill a classmate after having a fascination about Slender Man.  This is something to worry about parents.  Depression, addiction, and cutting can all be dealt with … Slender Man is something no one sees and yet has all the control.  Do I think he is real, no; but I am not the one attempting to kill people or committing suicide either?  I think we have another predator out there.  We know who started the meme Slender Man, but even he is surprised that he has lived as long as he has as a meme.  Is it possible that we have a predator stalking our young girls and preying on their innocence and their need to have a purpose?  This cannot be a coincidence that all three girls were the same age.  In the same journal entry that Slender Man is mentioned, Katelyn mentions a boy by the name of Ben Drowned.  Who has a name like that?  I looked on Whitepages.com (click on whitepages and it will pull the listings I found) and there was not one listing for a person with the last named Drowned.  In the suicide video, as Katelyn is saying her goodbyes, she apologizes to Ben.  Ben who?  Was she apologizing to Ben Drowned?  If she were, why would she apologize to him?  In the journal entry, it is very clear that Ben is not his real name because she even mentions that.  I think any criminal investigation into this case should start with Slender Man and Ben Drowned.  However, being the internet characters that they obviously are, chances of finding them are slim to nil.

I would love to hear your insights into this.  Ever since I heard about this poor girls case, I keep coming up with new aspects of it to explore.  I hope one day, if there are any guilty parties, that they are found and prosecuted.  If there is help to be found or a lesson to be learned, I hope it is done in great honor to the one that gave her life for it.

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